Good morning, good day, good evening~
It's been a long time since I updated my journal and thought I would do so since Christmas and New Year's are right around the corner. I foresee myself up to the waist in festivities (see: food, friends, and art-finally?) so much so that I probably won't update another one for a while. I might do one though for the New Year's Resolution~ This is going to be quite long, so read at your own volition.
I haven't really been active for most of 2014. A lot of things have changed, mostly because I wanted them to and therefore worked to change them. Can't just sit on my tush and will change into existence. They weren't things that could just change over night or even within a month or two. It took a long time. It took a
whole year. It wasn't easy. None of it was and so many things came at a painful sacrifice that was definitely felt....but very much needed and very much worth it. Everything this year was an act of carefully sowing seeds. I had to carefully choose which to sow and I don't know when it will all pay off, but I don't believe that the hard work and effort in these circumstances will be in vain. I believe and know with strong conviction that lovely fruits will come. I suppose it is just a matter of time (as so many long term things depend on...). That I must tend to so many long term things now might be the sign that heralds my entry into society's idea of "adulthood". I'm not sure what else it would be called. Maybe, the point of no return? Lmao that's a bit morbid. I don't think that life ends just because you get older and there are, yes, adult things to tend to. I think it is a time in which I now have to lay my foundations for creating a space, a "world" that I want to live in. When I was younger, I had more time to dream, and now I must actually lay the foundations in reality, especially if I want to stay true to the things I love to do. Because if my life cannot be mainly about that, then oh boy, we are going to have problems lmao.
I left people who I did not want in my life anymore. It doesn't make me stuck up to say this either, but I know they didn't deserve my friendship, my trust, or my time. They definitely aren't worthy of the person that I am now. I left it peacefully at that but that didn't mean they were just going to let me go. Some of those people attempted multiple times to harass me in private but I got really tired of it and just ignored every attempt. I have a right to choose who I include in my life and who I let go of, just as much as anyone else. It's too exhausting to stay angry, it's too exhausting to answer back to left over hate they have. Or..envy over not having something that I might have. One thing that became very clear to me is that I am not OBLIGATED to give ANYONE closure. If I want to leave, I can fucking leave. Even if I had exited in the most gentle and polite way possible, the other person could still see it as harsh, or as if the world was ending for them. Maybe there really is no easy or soft way to leave someone. NO matter if things were explained fully or not, if it hurts, it hurts. I understand that. But some people think it is such a bad thing if you walk away from "a lot" of people (in my case I only removed myself from 4 people this year and whether if that's a whopping big amount or not, I have no idea honestly), but it would be extremely fucking stupid and unhealthy to stay with someone or people who consistently lie to you, twist things to suit only their feelings and needs, or who direct your concerns to other people because they don't want any part in solving it or helping you. Oh, and then it gets even richer, you feeling concerned over something they did to you is suddenly turned into them being a "victim" and feeling "so hurt" over you telling them what they did to you. And suddenly you're the one who is wrong. Gaslighting for the freaking win. It invites more conflict if you stay with someone who has time after time again and again shown that what you feel or want has no place at their table. But they are so definitely free to feast off whatever you have. Plus that is valuable energy you can use to be doing things that make you happy with people who don't gaslight your ass to the max.
But one of the most difficult things was thinking about if I could hold someone responsible for their actions if they had a mental illness. Because...three of those 4 people I removed myself from did have different psychological issues and oh boy, did I get the verbal ass whoopin of the year or what when I decided to move on out of their life.... I only saw a real true part of them as I scooted away, and that was their anger and the sense of self righteousness born from feeling like a victim...? As if I was specifically targeting their insecurities when I basically had a problem with their actions and how they were treating me. But are the expectations they have of me even realistic? Is their ability to judge situations even...there at all? Is the way they are reacting towards me even reasonable? "I want you to die and go to hell and I want you to suffer because you left me. You don't deserve good things now because I am suffering so I'm going to take you with me." Holy shit. That was from one of them and one other one still tries to bug me with occasional gaslighting over art issues that I just ignore. Can anything even be "reasonable" with them? What is "reasonable" in this context even... What can you actually even contribute towards this relationship then...? Even now I don't have a clear cut answer. I don't know if I ever will. I don't know if that is even possible...But mental illness or not, depending on the behavior, I very much have every right to leave a relationship/friendship. Again, as does anyone else...because as a person you can very much choose who you want in your circle. Sometimes you can show someone the door or sometimes you have to pack your own stuff and get the fuck away from them. Not that I am perfect myself, I'm human as well, but sometimes... you gotta just fuckin leave rather than stay and wonder what other epic ways things can fail. I may not be ending the year with the same people I started it with, but I'm also not the same person I was in January of this year either. It's just one manifestation of how much things have changed. Too much stuff happens for things to be perfect, too many things happen for things to always be as they are. Work with what you can, cherish what hasn't perished and what you haven't chosen to burn, and move on.
There is only one person from that group of 4 that I removed myself from, not because they did anything wrong, but because I liked and loved them so much that a mistake from them was a huge emotional blow to me. I loved their personality and literally waited on their everything with baited breath just to hear the sound of their voice when we would play a game together. Their handwriting was like an ancient language of love to me and i cherished everything about them down to the ellipses of our skype conversations that let me know they were typing something back to me. My heart would beat faster in my chest and my face would grow warm every time I would see them come online. I wanted to know what she felt and why. I wanted to know what she thought about
herself. I wanted to know her entire world so I could fully say that I loved every part of it. R.H. I still love you very much. It's been almost a year since I made one of the largest financial commitments I've ever taken on so far in my life for someone important to me. I don't think I will ever be able to surpass what I did for my parents last Christmas. I didn't think I could do it by myself, and for a long time in just thinking about it, I honestly didn't think it was possible either. But it ended up being the complete opposite. A lot of things seem to always be much harder inside one's head than they really are in execution.
I spent half of this year completing an extra 6 months of study to go with the credentials I obtained for my career from January to around July. That took up more than half of 2014. A little more than half of my entire year went to this. I made myself sick and I felt horrible because for 6 months every day I was basically sitting in one place, reading, answering questions, and filing documents. It was worse than anything I have ever experienced in college. It was even harder because no one was telling me to go through with it. No one was demanding this from me. There was no deadline or assignment someone else gave me. It was simply because I wanted something better for myself and I had to, alone, endure all of what that meant...(to essentially be worthy of it, I guess). I wrote in my last journal that I would forget what day of the week it was, and sometimes even what month it was. I would eat some days and then not at all in others. I wanted to make sure I had something that would help distinguish me in regards to my profession. That part at least really paid off. It was such a relief. It lifted so much weight off my shoulders...!
I originally was going to work 3 twelve hour shifts at a new job and have 4 days off as a newbie to my profession. However, I got hired in another city close by for a higher position and pay. I was getting ready to move around september/october but at the last moment, I was contacted by another facility in a city closer to where I live. They offered me an even higher position that requires anywhere between 1-3 years of experience in a specific area
but they took me in and hired me anyway with none of what's expected. I am extremely lucky. When I found out exactly what I was supposed to be doing, I was hella worried about whether or not they would teach me what a seasoned professional with experience already knows how to do.
They told me they were going to take things slow with me and help me learn everything I needed to know to be able to do my job. It took me roughly a month and a half to get the basics down and from here on out, it's just been a really amazing learning experience. For the first time I was introduced to what politics in the work place looks like. I've been able to stand my ground, not back down on my values, and most importantly: to deliver the level care my patients deserved.
So, right now, I work under a physician whom I case manage hospice patients for. Every two weeks I report to him. What I've been able to learn how to do was because of the great support and responsiveness of my coworkers and the mentor that was assigned to me. My patients have terminal illnesses and I'm responsible for managing all aspects of their care until they pass. This is one of the toughest jobs I've ever come to love. It is extremely difficult for me at times but also...very rewarding. Because these are people with different personalities, who have families going through crises in trying to accept the condition of their loved one. These patients are people who I have real conversations with. I listen to their sadness, their joys, their frustrations. And when it is time for them to go, they go, but while on that journey to "the end", they're not alone.
This is going to sound rough and harsh at first, but working with end of life care and the dying gifted me with some, just some, insight on how to live life and value some of the things in it, but only because my patients shared that insight with me verbally. Their mistakes, their regrets, the choices they made, the paths they took. They remind me that we don't live forever, but they also remind me to really live. Lot's of people came into my life bc of this job. And someday they're going to leave me. So...it is not just their experience alone, it is also one they share with me.
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Bought a new computer and tablet in late july/early august? Yeah, bc my old 5 yr old one went poot. Original program not compaitible with new technology? That's ok, I can practice in SAI and PS for now and learn new things that way in the mean time. Not much time made for art? That's ok, art is one great love, both other things I loved needed to spend time together with me. Awkwardness ensues? That's ok, we wobble and fall down when we learn to walk.
Might livestream sometime on actual livestream channel or picarto. Or even host a join me just for friends.
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Commissions are open starting 12/25/14, on XMAS. I'll send up one more public reminder on that day. I have 10 Slots. First come first serve. Note me with information starting on the 25th for anyone interested.
Previous journal for commission information:
$2, $5, $7, $10,$15, $20, $25, and $30 commissions:iconwthplz: $2 simple sketches, $5 simple mock animations, $7 roughs with color, $10, $15, $20, $25 and $30 commissions on sale for a limited time only. Effort may vary. ROFL.
:iconblueheartplz: I accept paypal.
For anyone interested, here is random moment put together catalogue LOL.
$2 for a sketch, but +$1 for each additional character like the following (will most likely be waist up)
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$5 dollar simple "mock" animations like the following
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For $7 lucky dollars u can have some pie like
the pictures will be like those found in the following meme, rough sketch with softer lines and soft basic color.
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$10 for trippy candy like
:thumb275169067: (just simple simple basic color and it's actual pencil sketched)
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$15 dollars for funky cookies like
i dream of by Mujinai :
Prices and samples subject to change since this is so old.
I'm not open to art trades yet.
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My ass got tagged by
chinara /
- Make a post to your DA journal. The post should contain your list of ten holiday wishes. The wishes can be anything at all, from simple and fandom-related ("I'd love a ______ icon that's just for me") to medium ("I wish for _____ on DVD") to really big ("all I want for Christmas is a new car/computer/house/TV."). The important thing is, make sure these wishes are things you really, truly want.
- If you wish for real life things (not fics or icons), make sure you include some sort of contact info in your post, whether it's your address or just your email address where Santa (or one of his elves) could get in touch with you.
- Also, make sure you post some version of these guidelines in your DA or link to this post so that the holiday joy will spread.
- Surf around your friends list (or friends' friends, or just random journals) to see who has posted their list. And now, here's the important part:
- If you see a wish you can grant, and it's in your heart to do so, make someone's wish come true. Sometimes someone's trash is another's treasure, and if you have a leather jacket you don't want or a gift certificate you won't use -- do it.
- You need not spend money on these wishes unless you want to. The point isn't to put people out, it's to provide everyone a chance to be someone else's holiday elf -- to spread the joy. Gifts can be made anonymously or not -- it's your call.
- There are no rules with this project, no guarantees, and no strings attached. Give, and you might receive. and you'll have the joy of knowing you made someone's holiday special.
- One: fanart or fic of any of my fav pairings? rofl (palmer and barry plz LOL JK)
- Two: Eat a lot of wonderful food on xmas and skype with friends if they're even fuckin available that day LMAO so I can make a show of myself eating food and smoosh it into my webcam. LMAO
- Three: Do a livestream when most of my friends are available so we can joke around and play.
- Four: that thing that one person bought be compatible with that thing I really need HHHH
- Five: make it to next year and live a long life enjoying very many delicious food yes
- Six: Reorganize everything in living space for new year so that things are clean and I am prepared to dive into new challenges and ARISE AS THE VICTOR mAHAHAHAHAH
- Seven: continue to buy more clothes bc my old stuff doesn't fit me anymore.
- Eight: Create all my spaces to be for me. My spaces are like homes that I can invite friends "into".
- Nine: If I have any fucks left to give, throw them in the trash, go hard for the rest of 2014, and go harder in 2015, continue with fics and art of whatever I want.
- Ten: Start 2015 new, start fresh, go full ahead, strong, bravely, smartly, beautifully, grow, grow more, bloom, spread seeds, breathe, live, enjoy, share, create, love deeply.
Most of these things I have to fulfill on my own.